When did you last get a moment to yourself? And going beyond that, when did you last get a morning to yourself? Or an afternoon? Or an evening?
As a busy mom, finding any time for yourself might seem impossible, as not only do you have the needs of your children to look after, but you might have household chores and a variety of other appointments to consider too. If you’re not careful, you might start to hit mommy burnout if your busy schedule gets on top of you.
We don’t have all the answers, but as a general rule, there are some (fairly) simple ways to carve out more time for yourself. Take a look at the following for a few helpful examples.
Organize your week
In theory, the more organized you are, the more time you will be able to create for yourself. Download a weekly planner, and use it to schedule your time. Add in those things that are set in stone, such as any PTA meetings you attend, or any clubs that you need to ferry your children to and from, and include your housework jobs in there too. Then for any blank spaces on the planner, circle a large red ring around them. While something might always crop up unexpectedly, you might still get the opportunity to use these chunks of time to do your own thing. You might even plan what you are going to do in advance, writing down your me-time ideas on your planner.
Start saying ‘no’
Do you have to go to every school fundraiser? Does your child have to go to every club in town? Do you always have to answer ‘yes’ to the requests of your friends or family members? The answer is ‘no,’ as even though you might find it difficult to turn certain things down, you will preserve your strength and sanity if you do. Especially when you have already marked down ‘me-time’ on your planner, you should fight for the right to set these times aside for yourself, particularly when the expected and unexpected demands on your time can’t be classified as essential.
Is another parent taking their child to the after-school club? Ask them to drop off and pick up your child too. Is your partner taking his share of childcare duties? If not, make sure he plays his part, as not only will you benefit from this, but your children will benefit from some daddy time as well. Do you have to do every household chore yourself? Set up a rota that all the family can be a part of, and consider hiring the professionals for some of your usual tasks, from those who will do your window cleaning to the people who will mow your lawn. Sure, your family might kick up a fuss if they have to help with housework, and yes, there might be an expense if you hire somebody, but at least you will have more time to yourself as a consequence. And besides, if your children aren’t too happy about picking up the vacuum cleaner, you should remind them that if they didn’t make such a mess, they wouldn’t have to spend too much time cleaning!
Have you found ways to free up your time? Please let us know by leaving a comment below.
Take care, and thanks for reading.